I saw an incredible teaching tool the other day floating around on social media. I do not know the origin, but allow me to present it to you and share my thoughts.
Take a look at this:
9 X 1 = 7
9 X 2 = 18
9 X 3 = 27
9 X 4 = 36
9 X 5 = 45
9 X 6 = 54
9 X 7 = 63
9 X 8 = 72
9 X 9 = 81
9 X 10 = 90
What was your first reaction? Most of us immediately point out the mistake. Now I don’t know everything, but one of the skills I do know I have mastered is basic math. I know that 9 X 1 = 9, but that isn’t the point. The point is that the world will magnify your mistakes.
What You Focus On Matters
Society today is hyper-focused with pointing out people’s mistakes. Look at the 2016 Presidential Election, all the media can talk about are the previous mistakes, the latest dirt that has surfaced. It is all negative! Politics is an easy example, but is definitely not the only one. When employees are evaluated through their boring, HR-Mandated process, the only thing that is brought up by average supervisors are the mistakes that have been made by the employee in the last evaluation period. What is up with that? We hire people because of their strengths, but only focus on their weaknesses once they are in the job. The nitpicking has to stop!
Your Focus Multiplies
What you focus on multiplies. If you only focus on my mistakes, then my potential, intelligence, and work-ethic are all called into question. Look again at the times table above, if that were a quiz I would have gotten a 90%, an A-, a solid grade!
Which do you want to grow, your successes or your failures? Focus on that one. Focus on your successes. We can continue to improve and learn by having short celebrations and quick recoveries. When you or someone you know gets a win, celebrate! It is well earned! However, don’t let yourself succeed too long. That is how you lose focus. When you lose, learn! Look for the lesson learned, apply it, recommit, and off you go. Quick recoveries shift your focus from the failure to the success and that is exactly where you want it. What you focus on multiplies.
Take a Step Back Often
Look at the relationships you have in your life, do you only think of the negative when you think of your boss, your job, your spouse, your home, your family, your appearance, your life? Be grateful. Be positive. Be different. The world focuses on the negative, and most of the world is full of average people. Don’t be average, be great! Focusing on the negatives puts limits on you, and here we don’t tolerate that. Nix Your Limits-Focus on your wins, and watch them multiply.
Check out how I applied this mentality to a Vendor Event that my wife and I hosted in this video